|Bought these silver snowflakes to commemorate the 25 years. Aren't they pretty?|
That's a long time, folks.
And not that I am some kind of a marriage expert, but I have been in the trenches long enough to give two simple pieces of advice:
1. Make sure your significant other loves you just the way you are. As a writer, I cannot tell you how much I appreciate the fact that my husband lets me be me. He's a bit of an extrovert and is super active, and I need time inside of my head. If he didn't understand that I need alone time to write, our relationship would be much more difficult. There is the added bonus that he really believes in me.
2. Remember, it's not all about you. If you want to be accepted for who you are (writerly warts and all) then you have to remember to afford your significant other the same courtesy. You have to love and appreciate them the way you want to be loved and appreciated. Your dream may be to write a book or two. Your significant other's dream might be, um, I dunno....maybe they have dreamed all of their life of having a sauna in the living room for after surfing or something like that. And maybe you'll come home from the grocery store sometime and find that they have made their dream a reality and that there is a cedar sauna in the middle of your living room! That might happen to you sometime*. It might look like this:
|And it might be sitting right there in your living room!!!|
Looking forward to what the next 25 will hold!
*by "sometime", I mean last Monday. And by "you", I mean me. Yes, it really did happen. And yes, it is still there.....*sigh*